Well, I’ve spent the past week in bed. And while the idea might sound glorious to many of you (I know I’ve thought that in the past), the reality is a bit more challenging. Especially with a 5-year old and 2-year old who—try as they might to do it all themselves—still need a fair amount of help. But since I’m still having pretty major contractions (that, according to the doctors, are helping my little girl in her efforts to bust outta there at 32 weeks now), I’m taking my medicine, enduring the nasty side effects and doing my best to lay in bed all day, every day. The good news is, I’ve learned a lot this week. (Just blame my hormones if this seems a bit on the sappy side.)
Lesson #1: I am surrounded by an amazing support system made up of family and friends (and, of course, a husband who’s suddenly had to take on pretty much everything). People are reaching out from everywhere to see how they can help. From spending time with the boys to sending food to running bizarre errands for me, I can’t believe the lengths people are going to for my family. My cup, my fridge and my freezer runneth over.
Lesson #2: While Big has always been my compassionate, helpful child, Little is showing he has it in him too. The other day when he was sitting talking to me on the couch, he popped up and said he was going to get his blankie. Then instead of sucking on it while he sat with me, he gently laid it over me and ran to get his favorite stuffed animal for me to cuddle with too. It’s amazing how in tune with your emotions a 2-year old can be.
Lesson #3: I know my kids are still so little and need plenty of guidance and hand holding, but I’ve been amazed by the way they’ve confidently left my side to go out and play at friends’ houses on their own. And so far, they’ve managed to get along well with everyone (at least as far as I know) and come home with nothing but happy stories to share about their time away. Of course my friends helping them are truly wonderful mothers, but it makes me think they’re pretty wonderful kids too.
Lesson #4: While my kids have proven that they really don’t need me a lot of the time, it’s nice to know they still want me. Each of them has expressed to me how hard this is for them with tears, words and extra cuddles.
Lesson #5: Some things are easier to do than others while lying down. Here’s my short list.
Easy: Sleep (when my meds aren’t making my heart race), read, cut (Big’s birthday required a couple crafty moments), play balloon ball, order people around.
Not so easy: Drink, eat, digest, type, do laundry (which sounds like a blessing until all your sweats are dirty), shower, help my kids (eat, get dressed, open doors, build things, be little boys), ask for help…even though I know I have to.
No doubt this week will be full of new lessons, challenges and hopefully good news. Here’s to a great Spring week that has you light on your feet, not flat on your back.