A Day to Remember

A Day to Remember

A little over 14 years ago, I walked into a PolySci class while I was at UCLA that would change the course of my life. I’m guessing I chose the class because it seemed like a pretty easy way to check off an overdue prerequisite (after all, Communications was my thing…not Politics), but I ended up learning more than I ever imagined possible.

Perhaps it was because I found a subject matter I was completely surprised to be interested in, but that quarter I opened my mind. And it paid off. I learned to talk freely, and listen openly. I learned to debate, and gained confidence in my personal beliefs. I learned that perfection is in the eye of the beholder. I learned how to laugh with someone, and at myself. I learned that some of the best dancing isn’t choreographed. I learned to love unconditionally—not just someone else, but myself. I learned that, in many ways, dreaming keeps you grounded as you dive into an unknown future.

Honestly, I’ve long forgotten what the class was all about. But I can’t forget the hours that I spent with my lab partner, Lenny, talking about everything from Thursday night parties to cancer to sports to heartbreak—and everything in between. I distinctly remember thinking I wanted to marry someone just like him.

Eight years ago today, I did one better. I married him. And as the years bring us our fair share of celebrations and challenges, I always look back with fondness to those days on Perloff Lawn (where Lenny later proposed). Over the course of time, we formed a deep friendship—a true bond and mutual respect that’s been the foundation for our marriage.

Today, we’re on opposite coasts and have a 3-week-old baby, so we’re not celebrating with a romantic getaway like years past. But you can be sure that tonight I’ll be raising a glass to my husband. I’ll be thinking back to our perfectly imperfect wedding day and smiling. Then I’ll kiss our three kids goodnight and know that, even when Lenny is working hard in some other time zone, there’s a wonderful piece of him here with me.

And this family is exactly the dream we dreamed all those years ago. One that’s kept us grounded, and full of hope for what’s to come.

Happy Anniversary, Lenny! I love you and all that we are together (even when we’re apart!).

Update: The day after I wrote this, I saw a tweet from my fellow Shine Parenting Guru, Mommyfriend, about a blog collective she’s hosting. I shared this on her June Project Marriage Challenge. Check out other people’s stories and share yours too.

Photo of UCLA’s Perloff Lawn from Flickr by c3pomeara.

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  1. Sam King says:

    Happy Anniversary! What a sweet tribute to a long-lasted love!

  2. Happy Anniversary! You guys are SO SO cute.

  3. Cathi Fortner says:

    I remember how cute you guys were together back then – and if it’s true that things get better with age, you guys must be disgustingly adorable now :) Congratulations!!

  4. Donella says:

    Aww, great read! Congrats to you love birds! =)

  5. Amy Nelson says:

    Happy Anniversary!!

  6. Colleen says:

    Sob! What a sweet story. Happy Anniversary!

  7. Brian "lil brother" Sneed says:

    Happy Anniversary!!! You are such an amazing and talented writer, this was a touching story. I love you and will talk to you soon.

  8. Happy Anniversary to a wonderful couple in a wonderful family!!

  9. Carolina says:

    What a sweet story :), Happy Anniversary!

    • It was very happy thanks to you. We all loved the delicious dinner and it was a fun way to enjoy my evening with the kids. Thanks so much for making us a very special anniversary meal (meals, actually…can’t wait for more tomorrow)!

  10. Happy Anniversary! Sweet story :)

  11. Pam Callahan says:

    Happy Anniversary! What a beautiful story….’lil brother’ Brian is right…you are a very talented writer, Amy! Always love reading your posts :-). Cheers to you both and to your lovely family! Rob & I are celebrating 39 yrs this Fri :-) how time flies :-)

    • Happy Anniversary to you guys as well! What a wonderful life you’ve built together through the years. Sending love!

  12. What a beautiful tribute to a beautiful union! Love you guys!!! Happy Anniversary!!

  13. Brittany says:

    Happy Anniversary to you both!! What an amazing life and love you have. Continue to grow your family and love and most of all remember its progress not perfection in life.

    xoxoxo Brittany

  14. OpinionsToGo says:

    Happy Anniversary! What a lovely post! How refreshing to see
    a couple who genuinely know what is important in life and embrace it all with humor and a deep love and respect for one another.

    You are really one terrific writer!

  15. Happy Anniversary! Love your story :)

  16. Great story and Happy Anniversary! Thanks for linking up to us, loved reading your post! #projectmarriage

  17. Kari Bjork says:

    What a great love story. Happy Anniversary!


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