You know how I refer to Little as fearless? Well, it’s not entirely true.
Witches. He has a bizarre fascination with witches. It started around his 2nd birthday. He’d see shadows in his room, point, and whisper ominously, “Witch on a moonlight ride!” — a line from a Halloween book we have.
Lately the fear has resurfaced. He won’t sleep with his blankie anymore because it makes him dream about witches. Yes, even the fearless fear a thing or two.
And then there are the not-so-fearless. Big and I fall into that category. The worrier one. Our brains race with the what-ifs, the whys, the why-nots. Not only do we see our own witches at night, we see monsters in broad daylight. They come in the form of buzzing bees, looming deadlines, unrealistic expectations (not only for ourselves, but for others), rules (spoken and unspoken), you name it. We can pretty much find a monster lurking around any and every corner.
Well, it’s time to take control — to show those monsters who’s in charge. I’ve been trying to talk to the boys about their fears. To give them tools to work through the feelings of fear to regain a healthy sense of power and control. I’ve also been trying to do the same for myself. And I’m realizing that if I can make friends with my monsters, they might just give me a boost when I really need it.
This post was inspired by Sharon Cramer’s new children’s book, Marlow and the Monster. Beautifully expressive illustrations tell the story of a boy being pestered by a monster his parents insist doesn’t exist. As Big said, “He’s pretending to look like he’s not scared because he’s a big kid. But even big kids get scared — I do.” By the end, Marlow has found a way to manage the monster and go from being scared to being in control. While the artwork outshines the writing, it’s a great conversation starter for helping your kids tackle their own fears.
And now…the GIVEAWAY! To enter for the chance to win your very own copy of Marlow and the Monster, leave a comment below. Please share a fear you’re trying to help your little one conquer, or a technique you use to chase away the monsters in your house. All comments left before Thursday, August 23, 2012 at 9am PT will qualify as entries and one winner will be chosen at random.
Disclosure: I was sent a copy of this book as inspiration for this post/giveaway. All opinions are my own.