Oh my, mornings in our house are crazy. Big isn’t great at transitions. Or moving quickly. Or focusing. Or following
orders directions. You know, all the talents one needs to get to the bus stop at 7:30am — an entire hour and a half after waking up. Today was no exception. Frustrated, I sent him running out the door with his paperwork signed, lunch packed, ugly shoes tied, and not so much as a hug.
I’ve been regretting that all day. Hoping it didn’t start off his day on the wrong foot. I know that my happiness (or unhappiness, as the case may be) trickles down, and I’m trying to be mindful of that.
I’m in the process of reading a great new book, Nuturing the Soul of Your Family. This passage* really stood out to me and I’m trying, trying to keep it at the front of my mind — and actions:
Three of my immediate family members died unexpectedly between my twenty-sixth and thirty-fourth birthdays. For years I let those losses dictate how much and how often, I could experience joy. Anytime I started to feel light, free, or happy, the old feeling of “waiting for the other shoe to drop” would creep in.
Can you only be happy if things are going your way and all the stars are aligned in your favor?
I believe we’re born with the innate capacity to experience emotional well-being and joy; it’s our birthright to feel good. Happiness comes from within; we’re wired for it. We just have to remember to choose this moment to moment.
It’s easy to forget who we really are. To lose sight of what really matters. To fall asleep and not remember how interconnected we all are and that we’re fully human and, at the same time, divine.
A regular spiritual practice — whether that’s daily prayer or meditation, being in a spiritual community, or singing— serves to anchor us. It grounds us and helps us navigate the challenges we face from just being human. It helps us stay awake.
So ultimately, we can begin to let go, trust the rhythm and flow of life and relax into the beauty of our true nature.
I’m trying to breathe. To trust the rhythm of life (even if it is playing at triple time these days). And I’m trying to choose happiness. I know it’s mine to enjoy, I just have to remember to give myself, and my family, that daily gift.
Do you believe happiness is a choice? What do you do to support your family’s happiness?
*Excerpt from the new book Nurturing the Soul of Your Family ©2013 Renée Peterson Trudeau. Published with permission of New World Library http://www.newworldlibrary.com.
Disclosure: I received a copy of Nurturing the Soul of Your Family as inspiration for this post. Life balance coach/speaker Renée Peterson Trudeau, author of the award-winning The Mother’s Guide to Self-Renewal, released Nurturing the Soul of Your Family this week. Visit her online at www.ReneeTrudeau.com.