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In Defense of the “Too Happy” Facebook Profile

In Defense of the “Too Happy” Facebook Profile

October 21, 2015 by Amy, Using Our Words 6 Comments

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Recently I’ve found myself in a number of conversations with friends who are critical of how people they know use social media, primarily Facebook. The concern? People aren’t painting a realistic portrait of their lives. They’re selectively broadcasting the good stuff, the wins. The perfectly coordinated family photo shoot, the trophy ceremony, the toddler enthusiastically eating nothing but broccoli for dinner. Life just isn’t that perfect all the time. Where’s the real story? The struggle? The humanity?

They want people to stop “happy washing” their lives in social media. I mean, how are we supposed to compare ourselves on a scale of one to perfect if we don’t have the whole picture?

Ok, nobody’s actually said that, but I can read between the lines. (That and I’m human, too.) So how about this? How about we don’t compare? Or assume that things are picture perfect all the time, no matter how far down we scroll to prove otherwise? How about we see each post a friend shares for what it is? A moment of happy.

A moment. Of happy.

It’s true, life just isn’t that perfect all the time. Based on my experience as a pretty darn lucky human being, feelings of overwhelming joy, serenity, triumph, and even pride, are far too fleeting. Which makes each win, every glimpse of happiness, so much sweeter.

What’s not to like about the fact that your friend tirelessly tracked down coordinating outfits ranging from size 3 months to XL, and got every single person in the family to, not only wear that stuff, but smile while doing so — and at the exact same time? Assuming you’ve attempted anything similar yourself (albeit without the same finesse), you know that actually capturing that shot was nothing short of miraculous (not to mention expensive). So instead of an eye roll, go ahead and put a virtual high five out into the universe.

That trophy? It doesn’t represent someone whose kid is better at soccer than yours. (Though maybe he is better, and that’s ok too.) What it represents is gallons of gas, post-practice homework battles, some tough lessons (and coaches), and a kid who’s worked his butt off at something he loves, and happens to have something shiny to show for it this game/weekend/season.

As for the toddler eating broccoli? Well, just consider yourself lucky that you don’t have to change her diaper.

It’s true. There’s always more to the story. Always. But why not jump straight to the best part? To the happy ending? After all, that’s what makes all the messy stuff behind the scenes worthwhile.

(Then again, if imperfection’s your thing, you’ve come to the right place. Make yourself at home…)

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  1. MandarinMama says

    October 21, 2015 at 7:38 pm

    Yes! I totally agree with you. I see nothing wrong with “Happy Washing.” Who cares? Everyone knows FB is a curated reality. So what’s the big deal? I love the way you point out a better perspective. Thanks for the reminder. 🙂

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    • Amy, Using Our Words says

      January 11, 2016 at 4:57 pm

      Thanks so much for the comment…all the comments on this got sent to spam. Sorry I missed it way back when!

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  2. Taryn Degnan says

    October 22, 2015 at 9:58 am

    LOVE this post, Amy! Couldn’t agree more.

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    • Amy, Using Our Words says

      January 11, 2016 at 4:58 pm

      Thanks so much, Taryn! I love seeing your happy face and adventures in motherhood on Facebook!

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  3. Allison says

    November 16, 2015 at 11:26 am

    Ok, the diaper comment cracked me up. And I agree with this completely. I always want to be honest on social media but I also try to send good things out in the universe. No one likes to listen to me complain, ya know? So thank you for defending this!

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    • Amy, Using Our Words says

      January 11, 2016 at 5:00 pm

      Thanks, Allison! (Your comment was sitting in spam all this time.) Goodness knows I tell it like it is, but I try to put a humorous spin on my complaints at the very least. Well, most of the time…

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